You’ve been dating for a while, and your partner starts talking about dating exclusively. You’re not sure you’re ready for that. You’re not certain you care for him to the same degree he cares for you. What should you do? Have a frank transparent discussion.
There are a couple of ways things can go. You may decide, after hearing what he has to say, you do share the same feelings for one another and the same desire for commitment. On the other hand, if you’re not well matched in this area, it’s best to end things before it goes further. Drawing things out when you know he’s not right for you is selfish and will cause you both needless pain when you do finally decide to break things off.
The flip side is also true. You may have stronger feelings for him than he does for you. A frank transparent discussion is in order. If things end, it is going to hurt. A lot. For a while. But it’s better for things to end early than have your partner string you along for an extended period of time before he breaks it off. I’d rather have a man tell me he doesn’t feel the same about me than lie and just let me believe he’s as devoted to me as I am to him. I can always handle the truth. I might not like it, but I can always handle the truth. It’s the lies that destroy.
It may take a few days and a few boxes of tissue and a lot of support from your friends, but eventually you will realize everything works out for the best.
“Everyone you rule out gets you closer to the right one.”