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I’ve come to believe all marriages are a disaster, or at least a disaster waiting to happen.

October 30, 2022

What you said about marriage really is making me think. I’ve come to believe all marriages are a disaster, or at least a disaster waiting to happen. Maybe that’s why I’ve never married. Or maybe I’m not married for a host of other reasons. Or maybe I’ve got marriage all wrong. But you liked being married. You liked your wife. And it still didn’t work out.

Marriage is a lovely concept that seems nearly impossible to execute gracefully. And you can use the word “execute” to mean “successfully accomplish” or “kill” in that sentence. Both work. The important thing is you made me think. I’m still pondering, and likely will for a while. I always say what’s important to me in a man is kindness, intelligence, and wit. Equally important is sharing opinions and perspectives in a way that broadens my understanding. It’s even better when I get jogged out of an assumption I hold dear and acknowledge I really don’t have all the answers. So thank you for that.


“I love being right. I love that shit like chocolate. But what I am trying to do these days is hold my deepest convictions with like 20% less arrogance. Wish me luck.” -Nadia Bolz Weber

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